I miss you terribly and just wanted to pop by and remind you just how fluid sexuality is. You can fall in love without warning, rhyme, or reason. And that’s okay. No matter what you choose to call yourself, you’ll never fit any label because you are fantastically unique. You are you and you love who you love. Screw the rules.
P.S. checking out my flatmate’s blog could be worth your while~
I remember when I came out of the closet and told my parents I was Chinese. They’ve never looked at me the same way ever again,
That awkward moment when you realize that you’re Chinese.
“Mom, Dad…I’m Chinese”
“I was born chinese”
“no! the bible says adam and eve not Adam and Ling-Ling!”
Adam and Ling-Ling, oh my god.
I dont think anything iv ever seen will top this
laughing sooo hard LOL
"If we do not step forward, then we will step back. "
Was she going to slap you because you never in any way made him gay in the actual books, taking zero risks/doing absolutely nothing for gay characters in literature, and only announcing your “authorial intent” afterwards for a cheap shot at looking like an ~ally~
Gay people are just normal people. We are not told about any of the Hogwarts professors love lives, other than Snape, and it would be completely out of character for Dumbledore to walk around telling everyone about his sexuality.
Did you want her to make him dress in glittery platform boots, a crop top, and decorate his office in rainbow flags to make it more obvious for you? Would that be enough of a stereotype to appease you people? Or what? Please tell me. I’d like to know how you think a gay character is supposed to be portrayed.
And did you miss the Grindelwald chapters in the ‘actual books’? Or was that also not obvious enough for you? Did Dumbledore need to whisper “always” wistfully in order for you to connect that he had romantic feelings for Grindelwald? Maybe you are American and need them to gaze longingly into each others eyes with awkward close ups of their fingers almost grazing each other that Hollywood thinks means ‘true love’.
It didn’t fit into his relationship to Harry to ever say “I’m gay”, and so it was not stated explicitly (you might have noticed the book was told from Harry Potter’s perspective).
The point is though, that he is a homosexual, well respected, powerful, and very loved wizard- and his sexuality doesn’t matter because no one else thinks it matters. a.k.a. no one cares that he loves men, and that is wonderful.
^ Utterly agree, takealookatyourlife. OP, did you really want her to make him a flamboyant stereotype? Also, have you even read the books? In the first chapter of the first book, Dumbledore is wearing high-heeled purple boots. In the movies he wears BELLS IN HIS BEARD. And did his relationship with Grindelwald need to be made any more clear? Did she have to write a sex scene for you to pick that up?
If she wrote Dumbledore purely to represent the gay community, as like a Token Gay Character, THAT would be being a shitty ally. Instead, she wrote a complex, brilliant character who, hey, guess what, just happened to be gay but his homosexuality was not the centre point of his whole life: which is exactly how it should be. If all gay character representation centers around the character’s gayness, how are we supposed to show that gay people are normal people who have normal lives and problems just like everyone else, and their sexuality is not their entire life-story and all the entirety of their complexity?
EDIT: From this source:
The question was: Did Dumbledore, who believed in the prevailing power of love, ever fall in love himself?
JKR: My truthful answer to you… I always thought of Dumbledore as gay. [ovation.] … Dumbledore fell in love with Grindelwald, and that that added to his horror when Grindelwald showed himself to be what he was. To an extent, do we say it excused Dumbledore a little more because falling in love can blind us to an extent? But, he met someone as brilliant as he was, and rather like Bellatrix he was very drawn to this brilliant person, and horribly, terribly let down by him. Yeah, that’s how i always saw Dumbledore. In fact, recently I was in a script read through for the sixth film, and they had Dumbledore saying a line to Harry early in the script saying I knew a girl once, whose hair… [laughter]. I had to write a little note in the margin and slide it along to the scriptwriter, “Dumbledore’s gay!” [laughter] “If I’d known it would make you so happy, I would have announced it years ago!”
She didn’t, as OP suggests, open the closet for Dumbledore after the series was finished for a special ally cookie. She knew he was gay all along.
Proud to have this commentary on my dash. It’s beautiful and in no way could I add to it’s golden existence.
OP wanted Dumbledore to be exactly the same, but start all of his cryptic advice to Harry with “Giiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiirl!”
“just because it’s in your head doesn’t mean it’s not real…GUUUUUUURRRRLLLLL.”
idk i made a really stupid thing
good guy/trans*-positive shang
Trans* positive Shang
Transgender Kids: What Parents Need to Know
Some boys want to dress up as girls. What should parents do?The question is “What’s so bad about a boy who wants to wear a dress?”
That’s the teaser for a story in this weekend’s New York Times Magazine.
There’s no way to write about this subject without acknowledging that for probably 99 percent of Americans, the answer is self-evident: Boys don’t wear dresses. A boy in a dress will be ridiculed by his peers and it’s mom and dad’s job to protect him from that. Even assuming you’re in favor of (or indifferent to) adult men in a free society wearing dresses if they’re so inclined, it doesn’t seem like a choice a child is ready to make. And so on.
All of that makes sense, but, increasingly, as the Times article reports, this conventional wisdom is going out the window when real parents are confronted withreal children who don’t conform to the gender identity they are born with. (This is mainly a problem for boys, since little girls being “tomboys” is much more accepted.) The story introduces us to Susan and Rob:
The night before Susan and Rob allowed their son to go to preschool in a dress, they sent an e-mail to parents of his classmates. Alex, they wrote, “has been gender-fluid for as long as we can remember, and at the moment he is equally passionate about and identified with soccer players and princesses, superheroes and ballerinas (not to mention lava and unicorns, dinosaurs and glitter rainbows).” They explained that Alex had recently become inconsolable about his parents’ ban on wearing dresses beyond dress-up time. After consulting their pediatrician, a psychologist and parents of other gender-nonconforming children, they concluded that “the important thing was to teach him not to be ashamed of who he feels he is.” Thus, the purple-pink-and-yellow-striped dress he would be wearing that next morning. For good measure, their e-mail included a link to information on gender-variant children.
People will have all kinds of reactions to the story, from suspicion and outrage to recognition and empathy. I personally am sympathetic to anyone struggling with a kid who has vehement opinions about their wardrobe, since my 4-year-old daughter has defeated me on the field of sartorial battle and now exclusively wears pink princess dresses (sigh, and about 26 barrettes in random locations all over her head).
Yahoo! Shine talked to expert Kim Pearson to find out what parents should know about the topic of transgender. Pearson is a Los Angeles-based parent of a transgender child and her organization, TransYouth Family Allies, is devoted to outreach and awareness-raising of trans issues.
Pearson explains that ‘transgender’ is when a person feels that their gender (a social construct) is different from their sex. “If your sex and your gender agree, you’ve never thought about this before,” Pearson told Yahoo! Shine. “It’s probably never crossed your mind.” However, she says, “Sex and gender are two different things. Your sex is about if you have a penis or a vagina, your gender is in your brain.” She acknowledges that every time she goes to a school or new locale to raise awareness on the topic, “I have to spend the first 30 to 45 minutes talking about why this makes people crazy because we all think it’s black and white.” Some parents, she says, never get it, but many eventually come around to seeing that this is a real state of being and not something made up or that doesn’t make sense.
The first thing Pearson stresses that parents should know is “If you’re talking about young children, you’re calling them ‘gender non-conforming’ or ‘gender-creative’, not ‘trans-gender’.” Little kids go through all kinds of phases, Pearson says, and even a strong gender atypical preference for trucks or sparkles could mean nothing. “It is sorted out at puberty, very clearly,” she continues. “If a child persists with a gender-atypical identity into puberty, all the studies show that that’s going to persist into adulthood.”
So, shouldn’t parents play it safe and force gender non-conforming children, especially boys, to wait until they’re older to start experimenting, especially if they’re likely to grow out of it? Pearson says no. “There’s no evidence to support that allowing a child to express their gender differently causes harm, but we do know that forced conformity causes harm.”
Parents have a hard time accepting this, Pearson says, because they often worry that the child won’t find anyone to love them, or will be anywhere from bullied to endangered in the wider world. There’s no easy answer to that. For her, and most likely for the parents who participated in the Times article, the best way to keep their kids safe both psychologically and physically is to try to make the concept less stigmatizing and taboo through spreading the word.
More on Shine:
Celebrity kids: Gay, straight, transgender, it doesn’t matter to mom
Medical treatment for transgender kids. Is it ethical?
- Roses are gay.
- Violets are gay.
- You are gay.
- I am gay.
- We are all gay.
references a growing trend for ex-boy scouts to return their medals in protest over the Boy Scouts of America’s recently reaffirmed policy of excluding gays